Child Rearing

May. 26, 2022

My granddaughter was visiting one afternoon and we decided to bake some cupcakes. I later told someone that we started out baking like Rachel Ray and ended up looking like we were Martha Stewart baking from her jail cell, and here’s why:

As you can see from the photo that while I was collecting ingredients, she had collected a few of her own, including bottles of Lipton Tea, her “own paper with recipe directions,” and two cans of frosting that are sitting on the island. She deemed them necessary.

I had to leave the area for 2 seconds to answer the phone – that was not a good idea. In hind-sight, I should have had her come with me.

I came back to find her with a fork in her hand “stirring the flour.” Needless to say, flour was everywhere – ev-eree-where!

I stated the obvious to her and said, “You have flour everywhere.”

With her sweetest Angel Pie smile, she said, “It was an acci-dent, Momo.”

All was forgiven.

I cleaned up while the cupcakes baked and then when it was time to frost them, she insisted on trying our creation to be sure they were good enough to share with others. I could not resist snapping a picture of that sweet chocolate covered Angel Pie smile, either.

Jun. 24, 2018

My 18-month-old granddaughter loves to eat. I learned that fairly quickly when I stopped in at daycare to visit with her one day. She was still an infant then. While holding her, she suddenly started screaming. At first, I thought my rings had scratched her until I turned and saw the daycare worker standing next to me a bottle. My granddaughter had seen it first and was letting me know it was time to eat.

Well, not long ago, I stopped in to visit them and brought dinner with me. While my daughter and I sat in the dining room chatting after our meal, my son-in-law took the baby outside with him. She loves the outdoors.

He came in a few minutes later and said, “Well, she ate something off the porch.”

“What did she eat?” my daughter asked with concern.

“I have no idea,” he answered. “She picked something up off the porch and stuck it in her mouth. When she saw me coming she started chewing faster. By the time I had my finger in her mouth to dig it out; she swallowed it so...I don’t know.”

I couldn’t suppress a few giggles, but for the most part, I kept a straight face. However, when I got home and told Grandpa what happened, I was laughing hysterically.

I love this baby. She is so full of personality, I just can’t stand it!

May. 21, 2018

Since the recent shootings in Texas where a teen was reportedly to go into his (former) school and fire a gun at 12 people, social media has been a buzz. I read a meme that said, “Who is brave enough to address the REAL issue with school shootings instead of Liberals blaming the gun?”

I thought about that and decided I am.

The teenager is reported to have been suspended from the school so many times, that he’d been expelled. He stole his father’s gun, he didn’t buy it off the streets, but took it without permission. The school is a “gun-free zone,” which clearly advertises there are no guns on the premises to stop him and the area was fenced in. You even had to pass a security guard to get on the grounds!

Where does the blame belong? I say at the shooter's feet, but society likes to blame everyone else, so here it goes: 

The first place, I blame our government. They have made it impossible to raise our children with their laws. “It takes a village,” is Liberal motto. Personally, I think their village is missing a few idiots. Parents should be allowed to discipline. They live with the child and know their individual idiosyncrasies, not the government who only erroneously generalizes society.

Liberals will tell you that if you spank your child, it will make him resentful. I was spanked, that didn’t happen to me. I’m betting they were spanked, too, and do they hate their parents? Discipline teaches self-respect, self-control, respecting authority, and most importantly, respecting themselves…All the things Liberals do not want children to learn because then, they cannot be controlled.

The second place, I blame the parents. When all of this started, they should have stood up and said, “NO! I will raise my own child, not the government!” and then applied themselves as parents.

In the 60’s, Dr. Benjamin Spock, a well-known pediatrician who never married or had children of his own, wrote a book declaring that discipline was bad and would make your child fear you, even hating you. He started the Liberal movement against corporal punishment.

Before his death in 1998, Dr. Spock went on TV beseeching the public to “please, discipline your children, I was wrong!”

He admitted that lack of discipline was the cause of children being so disrespectful, being hateful, and mean-spirited. He predicted it would only get worse. By that time, it was too late. Liberal government had already taken over the homes and the schools to disallow anyone to spank a child. Parents should have taken a stand.

The third cause, and most important, is lack of God; not just in the homes, but in the school system, as well. I remember in my youth, every morning the principal would get on the speaker and say a prayer of blessing and again at the end of the day to offer a prayer for our safe return home. Right after Morning Prayer, the Pledge of Allegiance was said and we stood for the National Anthem anytime it was sung. I am a better person for it.


The government, the parents, Liberals, Media, and lack of God are the cause. Not every child needs to be spanked, but the ones that do, should be getting their butts torn up. If they turn up bruised and with broken bones, then the government should step in, otherwise, they need to stand down. Then let’s see what happens with school shootings. It’s time for parents to take a stand and make their own movements against the government and start raising their own children again.

Jul. 13, 2017

The majority of children today do not know what it’s like growing up without clothes, toys, or the bare essentials. They are often spoiled with their $180 Nike shoes or $300 Xboxes. Children do not need those things. We were disciplined if we acted out over being denied something we wanted, especially if it were pricey.

We didn’t have a video game of our own. We didn’t have a TV in our rooms, either. I felt very fortunate that my father bought himself an Atari 2600 (you read that right; himself). I was lucky he allowed me to play his Space Invader game one hour at a time most days. It was more than my younger brothers were allowed, as they were not to touch it at all.

Due to circumstances beyond her control, my mother was an (unwilling) non-existent parent in my life leaving only my father to care for me since the tender age of ten. Unlike children now-a-day, I only had two sources for new clothes. The first source was my older brother Terry, who gave me $100 a year to buy school clothes.

This money was spent on a new coat, pair of shoes, two pairs of pants, three shirts and if I had any left over, I could buy undergarments, such as panties, bra, or socks. Once the money was spent, it was gone so I had to be frugal with what I had. This continued well into my high school years, too, so even though the cost of living increased and shoes were more expensive, my only allotment was $100. It was all he could spare.

The other source for new clothes, that were not really new at all, came from a thrift shop. My Aunt Shirley worked as a manager at the Salvation Army and when clothes didn’t sell, she would bag them up and bring them to our house. Whatever clothes fit we could keep. The clothes that didn’t fit were returned to Salvation Army for another attempt at selling. In all of the years that I lived with my father, he never, not once, ever bought me an article of clothing; not even a sock.

When it came time for school shopping, he would tell me, “Call your brother and see if he has any money.” If it were during the school year, he would say, “I’ll call Aunt Shirley and see if she can help.”

School parties were an automatic no-go. I never had any party dresses or money to buy one. Spending days at the mall was also unheard of due to lack of funds. There were many things I did not have for personal pleasure or even for school because my father wouldn’t buy them. However, I wasn’t alone. Many of my peers were living under the same poverty conditions that I was. For us, it was just a part of life.

It wasn’t until I moved south that I saw my first pair of Jordache and Chic Jeans. It was my junior year in high school and a few of the girls were wearing them.

Although, by this time, I was already conditioned not to expect more than what we could afford which was close to nothing. I had already developed the attitude that if I were going to wear someone’s name on my derriere, it was going to be my own. I didn’t pin my hopes on a new prom dress, either, or even entertain the idea of going to prom. I had a few prom date offers, but since I knew my father would never buy the gown, I turned down the few boys who asked me to prom.

I remember my cosmetology teacher taking me into her office for a private conversation. She motioned for me to have a seat as she closed the door.

She began with, “You are such a smart girl, very quick witted and you have a wonderful sense of humor, but you’ll never be a popular girl if you don’t start wearing Jordache Jeans, or even Chic Jeans.”

“What makes you think I want to be a popular girl?” I asked, as I tried to figure out what of my actions made her think that being popular was a priority to me.

“Well, everyone wants to be popular and well liked,” she explained. “No one is going to like you if you don’t start wearing name brand clothing.”

“Are you going to buy them?” I asked quite irritated.

She did not know my situation at home. It was bad enough we students had to come to school and cope with peer pressure from our peers, especially those of us who lived in poverty. And now we (or I) had to deal with peer pressure from my teacher. I was livid!

I stood from my chair and looked down at her as she remained seated and said, “If people choose to dislike me because my family can’t afford to buy me the expensive name brand clothes, then that is their problem. Personally, I do not care to associate with people who are shallow and superficial and base their relationships on income or clothing. So if someone is coming to you with these complaints, tell them I said to pony up with the money for me to buy these things or they can kiss my ass! Either way works fine for me!”

I realized as I stormed out of the office that I could have been suspended for cussing at a teacher, but I also realized that she would have to explain herself to the principal. Knowing that she was an alcoholic and had witnessed her sipping from a bottle of vodka she kept in her desk drawer, as well as being drunk while trying to teach the class, I was pretty sure she wasn’t going to report me. Still, I went home and warned my father and told him what happened. He didn’t care.

As an adult, I reflect back to those days. When buying for my own children, I bought what I could afford. I didn’t make them do without, but I certainly did not buy the name brands they felt they needed, especially my daughter. I tried, through example, to show them we can still have nice things without having to mortgage the house to get them.

A part of me feels I failed because my daughter, now an adult herself, strives to buy the more expensive things. When she was a teenager, she was so embarrassed to be in Walmart that she hid behind clothing racks in case someone she knew from school saw her there.

“Well, if they see you here and you’re not supposed to be, then ask them what they are doing here,” I insisted.

I cannot see myself acting that way at all. I was more appreciative of what little I had since I had so little to begin with. I also cannot see myself demanding my father spend over $100 on a pair of shoes for me and then throwing a temper tantrum if I didn’t get them. Then again, I cannot see myself getting away with throwing a temper tantrum period.

Yes, I grew up fearing my parent. I feared that if I did not respect him in his house he would tear my butt up. I feared that if I got out of line and misbehaved, I would get my butt tore up then, too. However, I surely did not need a teddy bear at night to help me understand and cope with not getting a new anything and I certainly did not feel my father didn’t love me because he disciplined me.

As a result, I grew up knowing that we have to work hard for the worldly possessions we want to have, unlike the children today who are learning selfishness and narcissism by getting things at their every whim. Parents need to sit up and pay attention before it’s too late…or is it already?

Mar. 23, 2017

When I was homeschooling my son, I read something on the internet about how a man tried to use a $2 bill and they thought it was counterfeit. Being of the younger generation, they had never heard of $2 bills before so they believed it to be funny money.

I stopped at the bank and picked up $10 in $2 bills. My son’s next assignment was to spend one bill at five different places and then write about the experience whether it was good, bad, or uneventful. He could spend it to buy a drink or a pack of gum, anything he chose. The change was his to keep.

He really enjoyed this assignment and spent the next week going around to five different places spending the money. All but one place questioned the bill but everyone was willing to accept it.

They are so rare anymore that I think I will stop at the bank and pick up a few, then pass them out as tips the next time we dine out. I’m curious as to how this generation responds to them 10 years after my son’s $2 bill assignment.